So we’re back to the school run with tears and tantrums as we’re leaving the house because my daughter didn’t want to go to breakfast club this morning (In her words she’s now quitting breakfast club), along with not wanting her hair brushed ect. And this is Groundhog Mum! saying the same things over and over every morning Monday to Friday until your blue in the face and so worn out before you leave the house you’re seriously contemplating jumping back into bed, calling the best friends mum to collect her to drop her at school so you can have a day of peace (nah? just me then)
There’s something I’ve been thinking about. If you don’t already know, me and the Mr have been together for 19 years, as with all relationships we have had our ups and downs these last couple of years being the worst. Over the last couple of years due to the Mr’s working hours and my 9-5, we have on occasion been sleeping in separate beds as he snores and I grind my teeth.
There was an article in take a break I think it was recently (which I was reading while waiting for my root canal at the dentist on Tuesday) and it was talking about partners having separate rooms and asking if people agree or not. Well I have to admit that having my own space from time to time is nice and then this got me thinking, what if he moves into the guest room full time so I can have my own bedroom?!
Some may not agree but after being together for so long (since I was 18), which prior I shared my room with my son and prior to that I shared a room with my sisters. I realised that I have never actually had my own room, my own space to decorate how I wish and relax in on my own. I haven’t spoken to the Mr about this yet but I’m seriously considering raising this with him. Don’t get me wrong we still have our time and our intermate moments even when we are staying in different rooms due to work hours so I can’t see it effecting that side of things but a little space just for me would be really nice.
What’s your thoughts?
While reading this article I also thought about how no one is really open about their relationships, personally I haven’t told friends that the Mr and I sometimes don’t sleep together because I’m concerned about what people will think or say. But why is this? why should I care if we’re happy? Why are we all caught up with “keeping up with the jones’s”? and comparing our relationships? Why do we let other peoples opposite views effect us and our thoughts? I’m one that thinks very deeply about things, I then take that thought and over think it, pulling apart every little detail, every slight change in tone of voice, every change in someone’s story (I should have been a detective, nah stuff that I can’t stand paperwork) My point is that I don’t think people realise that this is what I’m like and that I’m not the only person that does this. So when they say something “off the cuff”, its not really “off the cuff” to me, I will dwell on that trying to work out what they meant by it.
Are you the same?
Today is my little bit of freedom day because I finish work at 1pm and my daughter is at school until 2.40pm, the Mr is at work with our son so I get a whole hour and thirty minutes to myself. This time is usually spent cleaning the house before I collect her however today I think I’m going to have a catch up with a friend. Currently my office is covered in paperwork which needs filing (boring), 33 emails unread and unactioned, invoices to process and takings to reconcile. Maybe I wont get to finish at 1pm afterall! We’ll see………………………………………………………………………………..
Update you later (although after updates always seem to be not as thought provoking)
Coffeebreakgal 