No, this is not a post giving fashion advice, its just me again.
I like to think I dress well (I may not and I’m living in a dream world) but I often look at other women and admire their dress sense. I consider trying out something similar and then I chicken out of doing it. Although I have to add that today while rushing to get ready for work I mistakenly picked up my blue suit jacket which would be ok if I wasn’t wearing a black outfit (hand to face moment).
How and why do we dress the way we do? When does it change from showing as much as you can to knowing less is more? It seems to be a natural progression I think. I always play the safe card, nothing too low, nothing too high however I have made some rash purchases recently and I’m wondering if they are doomed to spend all of eternity in the back of my wardrobe?! You see I purchased a top very low cut to go with jeans and a dress that cuts low and has a split in. I know right scary stuff hehehe.
As a mum I no longer feel confident and comfortable to wear something so revealing, then I look at other mums my age going out on the town, posting selfies and they seem to wear them effortlessly. I envy that confidence to wear what you like when you like.
So over this past year I’ve been googling, fashion ideas for mums mid 30s. I have to say not a lot comes up. I love jumpers but they just make me look bigger, I also love the high waist jeans and short jumper look but what do you wear on your feet? trainers? boots? shoes? I’m also liking the dress and Chelsea boot look, ummmm think chelsea boots are going to be my next purchase.
I feel like I’m in that limbo stage, I’m no longer young but I wouldn’t say I’m old either, I want to dress for comfort but I also want to dress to impress (to impress myself not other people). I want to be able to put on a pair of jeans and a jumper to pop to the shops in and not feel like a scrapped together teenager from the 90’s worrying I’m going to bump into someone from work. So how do I do this? how do I pull off the looks that I want? I’m also currently loosing weight so I’m reluctant to spend a fortune on clothes at the moment, which really doesn’t help the situation.
My go to shops are Next and John Lewis. In fact I think my whole work wardrobe is Next as I like the comfort, wash and fit. Another thing is sizing, whenever I buy from anywhere new I have to think about how the sizing compares to the shops I usually purchase from. So I’m there googling away again and of course I’m met with conflicting reviews.
Wouldn’t life just be so much easier if companies had to maintain the same sizing? Currently my weight is dropping quite rapidly however I have no idea what sizing I am in lets say River Island and Top Shop, will they even cater to my size? Am I too old to be thinking Top Shop? I don’t know. There has been a lot of celebs making statements about shops such as Zara and their sizing. It makes me scared to even contemplate online shopping.
Have you seen the two tic tok girls that do the same outfits, I think they did an ad for Boohoo recently, OMG I love them and I think the curvier woman actually steals the show, she looks amazing in virtually everything.
I could do with a fashion guru to take me under their wing and show me how to make the best of myself and to dress me daily at their expense (I wish). When do we get to the point that we look like mutton dressed as lamb? I don’t know that answer to that all I know is I don’t want to go down that road and that concerns me whenever I look at buying anything even remotely revealing, well that and my body hang ups.
Why are we always so concerned at what other people think? Surely we should just dress for us? and while I do the majority of the time I still wonder in the back of my head is this suitable enough? Will so and so like me in this? Don’t get me wrong I buy what I like but there are always those thoughts in my head. I like the days of my early 20’s when I really didn’t care and I wore what I liked when I liked. I think that was when I was at my happiest with myself, I liked the way I looked, I liked my body and I really didn’t care for other peoples opinions. I should go back to those days but there’s always something, my stomach isn’t flat enough or my legs aren’t long enough or is this dress showing off back fat!!!!! Its a never ending circle. I’ve eaten pasta for lunch today and I’m just grateful of the outfit that I chose to wear is loose as pasta makes my stomach swell. See there are so many other things you think about when you’re older.
I wonder that when I turn 40 if I will be back at the stage of no longer giving a f&*k
Coffeebreakgal 